This is great - “his spine, his heart, and his willingness to battle dragons.” I have a man who knocks it out of the park in all those categories and he’s amazing.
Most men do grasp that women and men are fundamentally different, in a way that women- at least us Gen X Anglo ones - do. If we feel strong empathy for him and it’s not reciprocated, it feels like he’s being an arsehole and it hurts. This is where a lot of women’s ‘negative’ emotionality is born and nurtured within a feedback loop of incomprehension. Accepting that we are fundamentally different and have certain traits that exist because we have been created/evolved to perpetuate the species in its most divine form, is essential to peace and love in any relationship.
The thing that men find most difficult to understand about women is that we are logical within our own framework- not men’s.
We are not the steadfast thing; the straight linear progression. You are the rock and we are the waves. Our emotions are tied to our reproductive cycles, to whether we are in a maiden, mother or matriarch phase and whether we have children, their ages, if we are in a relationship etc. women are receptive and reactive to the forces around and within us, in a way that men just aren’t, at all.
Young women have no socially acceptable path to maturity in this culture. They are offered only different ways to become crazy, depressed, borderline and alone.
There’s a great podcast conversation between Louise Perry and Helen Dale about how Christianity replaced pagan law in Rome because it gave women’s role a status that it hadn’t had. Women in pagan Rome had more influence and indirect power - divorce was legal, ‘abortion’ and infanticide common - so why was Christianity so incredibly popular and powerful a force among Roman women? Why did they trade what appeared to be greater freedom, power, individual choice over one’s life, for a doctrine that offered little except service and sacrifice? Doesn’t that appear illogical?
The mansplaining is always mocked because it’s like a kangaroo telling a dolphin that it could jump so much higher if it didn’t stay in the water all the time.
The "logic" of women is extremely often not even consistent in their own version of "reality". A woman will invalidate whatever rule she professes to have in the blink of an eye given certain circumstances. The logic they do follow is one men can approximately understand in the way that electron motion can be approximately understood as a cloud of generic possibilities that can alter "shell" given various attractive or repulsive forces of other particles.
This is great - “his spine, his heart, and his willingness to battle dragons.” I have a man who knocks it out of the park in all those categories and he’s amazing.
Good article.
Most men do grasp that women and men are fundamentally different, in a way that women- at least us Gen X Anglo ones - do. If we feel strong empathy for him and it’s not reciprocated, it feels like he’s being an arsehole and it hurts. This is where a lot of women’s ‘negative’ emotionality is born and nurtured within a feedback loop of incomprehension. Accepting that we are fundamentally different and have certain traits that exist because we have been created/evolved to perpetuate the species in its most divine form, is essential to peace and love in any relationship.
The thing that men find most difficult to understand about women is that we are logical within our own framework- not men’s.
We are not the steadfast thing; the straight linear progression. You are the rock and we are the waves. Our emotions are tied to our reproductive cycles, to whether we are in a maiden, mother or matriarch phase and whether we have children, their ages, if we are in a relationship etc. women are receptive and reactive to the forces around and within us, in a way that men just aren’t, at all.
Young women have no socially acceptable path to maturity in this culture. They are offered only different ways to become crazy, depressed, borderline and alone.
There’s a great podcast conversation between Louise Perry and Helen Dale about how Christianity replaced pagan law in Rome because it gave women’s role a status that it hadn’t had. Women in pagan Rome had more influence and indirect power - divorce was legal, ‘abortion’ and infanticide common - so why was Christianity so incredibly popular and powerful a force among Roman women? Why did they trade what appeared to be greater freedom, power, individual choice over one’s life, for a doctrine that offered little except service and sacrifice? Doesn’t that appear illogical?
The mansplaining is always mocked because it’s like a kangaroo telling a dolphin that it could jump so much higher if it didn’t stay in the water all the time.
The "logic" of women is extremely often not even consistent in their own version of "reality". A woman will invalidate whatever rule she professes to have in the blink of an eye given certain circumstances. The logic they do follow is one men can approximately understand in the way that electron motion can be approximately understood as a cloud of generic possibilities that can alter "shell" given various attractive or repulsive forces of other particles.