Some sparse thoughts on the dating life

It needs to be said that my book Caveman Theory has a much more in depth and coherent description of the processes that exist between men and women. But as I wrote in that book, despite many people asking me to write it, I held back for at least 20 years. My finally writing it is in no way a statement of completion, as I explained then too. Merely one of relative competence. And then limited to my view of the Universe and the big topic values I hold to be nearly Universal in objective value.

The entire subject of romantic and sexual relations between men and women is not a topic anyone can put a final full stop to. At best we can make some valid notes that can help the weary traveler, the bewildered and confused, the young and inexperienced, and —one hopes against hope— the embittered.

The scattered thoughts in the format of bullet point here are merely to be viewed as incomplete addenda to Caveman Theory that may yet be of use even in their simplified form.

Here then, they are:

The Sigma Re(E)volution

• In evolutionary terms, (insofar as evolution happens that is; i.e. epigenetics) the last five years of Orwellian dystopia, have exposed everything from mass murder, to the exposure of the Talmudians as truly being of the Synagogue of Satan, rampant pedophelia, organ and child trafficking and so on, all with the imprimatur and approval of governments and false religions, from the fake Novus Ordo “Catholic” (Satanic) Church to the 40,000 cults of protestantism and the Eastern schismatics as well as all the various Pagan religions. This SHOULD result in two separate but related emergent phenomena:

  • The ascendance and taking on even by other archetypes of at least SOME of the primary characteristics of the Sigma male by men in general. We know this is a danger to the vampires in charge because the very term is attempted to be suppressed in a rather extreme fashion. See the originator’s perplexity here, and you can also see my answer to him in the comments.

  • The noticeable increase in women in general to be able to think, act and even react more logically than ever before in human history.

Notice I said SHOULD.

Not will.

In fact, when I say this I am referring to generally the minority of humanity that counts. That makes a difference.

Most human beings, even in the aggregate do not amount to much. Societies are propelled into new directions by primarily two factors:

• The Talmudians and their henchmen or spiritual ilk, acting in secret, deception, subterfuge, always to increase degeneracy, usury, fraud, sophistry, and subversive methods to parasitically use, abuse, control and enslave the goyim.

• Men (usually, but some women too) of good character, or at least strong will, who persevere in the face of impossible odds and nevertheless change the course of history. There are many examples: Tesla, the Orwell brothers, King Leonidas, Jean Parisot de Valette, Prince Bohemond, Pietro Micca, Julius Caesar, El Cid, Richard Lionheart, Christopher Columbus, Joan of Arc, and many others.

The primary mechanism by which these extraordinary individuals operated was a rebel nature towards the status quo of their day.

The Sigma mindset is by default that of a man that thinks outside of the generally accepted social norms. This in and of itself is not necessarily a good (or bad) thing, it is morally neutral in and of itself. It does however tend to ostracise the practitioner of it at least socially. Whether he is a serial killer or a Steve Jobs, the reality is that he makes polite company uneasy. Alphas perceive him as a threat even when he is not necessarily in conflict with them, but more as the fact that a Sigma is usually very capable and competent in his chosen fields (they have to be to survive outside of greater society in general), usually of above average intelligence by a considerable margin, and quite unpredictable.

But given what we have seen over the last half-decade would not EVERY man benefit at least a little from taking on a bit of that ability and willingness to know things for yourself and act according to your own, deeply held beliefs? And in fact, first perhaps dig deep enough to find out what those even are, and are they even yours?

I think we are on the cusp at the very start of a fork in human evolution. It may be centuries before any of this plays out, but I think there is a definite possibility of mankind diverging into two paths. First, a broad and common one that will most resemble locusts in their effect on the world. Unless they are actually corralled, enslaved and euthanised by the vampires en masse. Which is more or less happening already. The second path, narrower and less populated, and certainly hunted and hated by the controllers of the aforementioned zombie-locusts, will be composed of men and women that have taken on some more of the overall Sigma behaviours of detached dialectic, individual thought, and yet… including also an element foreign to the Sigma in general: a level of communal co-operation that permits them to create communities and technologies that will protect them from the first group while allowing them to continue evolving.

If I am right, these more logical women and independent, efficient men, will be getting together and out of that coalescing additional sense of both marriage (loyalty being a strong component of the Sigma psychology) and communal necessity, breeding and making a LOT of smart, mostly home schooled, Sigma-thinking infused children.

Now, I know, I know EVERYONE wants to be a Sigma boy; and every woman fancies herself a Vulcan, but nature, and reality, is never that neat. Especially at such forks in human evolution.

So… while consciously trying to incorporate these concepts is a good thing, whether you’re trying to be more Sigma-like or more Socially integrated, the journey will be far from smooth, especially at first.

There is no manual and the path has to be forged. In that respect then, since my own marriage is probably almost a caricature of this very concept (feminine woman trying to be more logical and dialectical, and Sigma male trying to curb his serial killer instincts towards the broader part of inefficient and ineffective humanity), I thought I’d note down a few of the signposts that I think would be helpful to others that may be at the start of that journey.

The fundamental aspects you need to probably have, and can’t really be faked or maybe even learnt, in my opinion, are:

• Loyalty. This can be a peculiar sort for both men and women, and it’s hard to define to someone who doesn’t get the feel of it. Sigma-like men value loyalty but it can play out in strange ways for most average people. Similarly the women who are best able to live with a Sigma have the same sense of loyalty that can appear quirky or even disloyal to others. The underlying foundation of it is honesty and a rather extreme version of it. I once met a woman years ago that was in a long distance relationship and she said if her boyfriend cheated on her, as long as she never found out, it wouldn’t bother her. In her female mind, she knew the knowing would affect her emotions in a way she would not want to try to handle. But in a logical part of her brain she explained she understood the boyfriend might have needs and just because he might have sex with another woman, it didn’t mean he didn’t love her. It was quite a deep level of self knowledge as well as trust or perceived “loyalty” from her boyfriend too that she felt confident his affairs would be little more than diversions and not a serious threat to their relationship. A Sigma type relationship might even crash and burn, but if this dynamic exists, neither party will try to cause harm to the other. It’s a level of loyalty that is normally reserved for family. Your husband turns out to have robbed banks or be a hit man but you elect to stick by him. Your wife worked as a prostitute but you never hold it against her. These are obviously extreme examples (not related to my life or my wife’s by the way!) but they are used to try and give a sense of what is meant by loyalty in this context.

• The primary purpose of marriage is to make and raise children. Regardless of all other considerations, this is ultimately the main point. Your life and marriage need not be hellish, and indeed that is to be avoided, but your own happiness is subjugate to that of your family. This is fairly normal for men anyway, but it is a lesson women absolutely need to pin to their foreheads and read in the mirror daily in today’s world, far more than ever before, and it needs to be a CONSCIOUS and constant choice on their part. 80% of divorces are initiated by women because “they are not happy”; with absolutely devastating consequences for the children involved, as we now have decades and millions of cases to show the absolutely horrific results of female solipsism left unchecked. The likelihood of women in general waking up to this reality and doing a 180 degree turn on it is close to zero. Biology is a harsh mistress. Just like it is hard-wired in Sigma men to have a visceral rejection of communal social mores and perspectives they can see as limiting, ineffective, inefficient and counter-productive. As far as a woman trying to resist and go against her solipsism, or a Sigma man going along with generic human stupidity goes, the sensation for both of them, is akin to not breaking when your car spins out and is heading directly into a wall. And paradoxically, or funnily, because God has a sense of humour, a woman will need to evolve a more manly (logical, objective, left brain) way of thinking, and a man a more feminine way of thinking (fatalistic, faithful, right brain). Having done martial arts for a long time helps (you do an inherently painful activity for years for not very clear real benefits. The benefits exist but can only be experienced AFTER much pain and perseverance well beyond that of normal people. Ditto the not dismissing social engagements in order to avoid the rampant stupidity for a Sigma man.) So what to do? All I can suggest is to persevere, because nature always finds a way, and if we need a new spaceman and a new spacewoman (NOT a la Katie Perry!) then they will somehow be forged by that necessity.

Things that will help

• Being aware of, and using the dual brain theory I developed recently, link here for part I and here for part II.

• Having a Catholic (real, so 1958 Sedevacantist) belief system (marriage is for life).

• Using a flowchart I developed years ago (I will post it in a later post).

• Understanding and being aware of my theory of boxes.

• Being aware of and understanding Imago Theory. (I have not read the linked to book, I did read the original one Getting the Love you Want in the early 1990s which was useful.)

• Realising any new human path taken has to be done consciously, carefully, and rationally, but that same rationality murders romance and spontaneity in the crib.

• Realise consciously that children are the main beneficiaries when the father and mother are devoted to each other.

• An active sex life. No one ever divorced because the sex was too good.

Most important

Things will not work, and indeed cannot work in the long term, if you are not in agreement on at least these:

1. The primary purpose of marriage is to produce and raise children in the same base-line philosophy you both ascribe to and got married under.

2. The relationship between the husband and wife takes precedence over the relationship of either the husband or wife with the children, because it is the model they will imprint on. Even if both parents should, of course, always be ready and willing to die for their children, and their children should absolutely perceive this, their relationship should be perceived by the children as the baseline foundation of their family (because it is; and this is why divorce is so detrimental to children and causes ripples throughout their later life).

3. The concept of loyalty should be a shared one.

4. Your sex life needs to be at minimum satisfactory for both and ideally really awesome for both. And yes it can be so in the long term too.

So… if you are a pioneering Sigma couple, I hope these pointers help navigate you to the stars, because if anyone will get off this planet and colonising other star systems, it sure isn’t going to be the NPCs being herded by the Talmudic Vampires.